Why domestic violence victims can’t ‘just leave’

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If you have been fortunate enough to never have been in an abusive relationship, you may not understand why it can be extremely difficult for domestic violence victims to leave their abusive partners.

FOX8’s Julie Grant spoke with Susan Brady of Family Services of the Piedmont to better understand this complex issue.

Brady says one of the biggest misconceptions about domestic violence is that it is easy to leave and escape the abuse.

Leaving is actually the hardest thing to do, partly because it is the most dangerous time for the victim. Brady says this is because when a victim leaves, the abuser loses control over them.

Domestic violence is not about anger management issues, Brady explains, as some people may commonly believe.

Instead, domestic violence is about the batterer having power and control over their victim.

Brady says that domestic violence is very controlled and methodical conduct done to exert control over the victim.

Domestic violence is sometimes known as a hidden epidemic, as batterers most often abuse their victims in private and sometimes work to conceal the harm they have inflicted.

Family Services of the Piedmont runs two shelters for victims in Guilford County. There is also a crisis line open 24 hours a day, seven days a week at 336-273-7273.