4-year-old boy banned from doughnut shop because of ‘rude’ question

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MONROE, Conn. — Kids say the darndest things, but one local inquisitive 4-year-old boy asked a question that got him banned from a Monroe doughnut shop.

“We were screamed at in front of the door, ‘he’s not allowed in here, he’s rude’,” said Rebecca Denham as she described her experience at the Doughnut Inn on Tuesday morning.

Denham said her son, Justin Otero, asked a woman at the doughnut shop if she had a baby in her belly.

When the woman said ‘No’ Otero apologized, and his mother said she was mortified.

“My response was ‘Oh my goodness, I’m so embarrassed, I’m so sorry’,” Denham said.

While the woman said it was ‘no problem,’ the managers at the Doughnut Inn were not as forgiving.

When Denham and her son walked in the shop Tuesday morning, they were allegedly told to leave.

“She said, ‘he’s not allowed in here,’ and I looked around, and said, ‘him?’ and she said ‘yeah, he’s rude’,” Denham said

She said she tried to explain what happened to her son and said he “sort of” understands, but he is still asking questions.

Eyewitness News tried to contact the manager and owner of the shop, who had no comment.

Denham said she and her son are planning to take their business elsewhere, while using this as a learning lesson for Justin.

“Some people, unfortunately are quick to pass judgment, and therefore we will take our money and business elsewhere,” Denham added.

The owner of this Doughnut Inn owns at least two shops in Monroe, however he/she does not own the stores that are located in Fairfield and Stratford.

Source: WFSB/CNN


  • Willbear Arms

    Obviously the fat worker needs to stop eating all the profits and grow a little thicker skin.

    • joanne

      He asked another patron, not an employee. Boy, aren’t we quick to jump on the fat bashing bandwagon

      • candace

        Okay, and how is that relevent? We know what the story says and most people are upset with how it was handled because its ridiculous, simple as that. He’s a 4-year-old. Should we be sensitive to the needs and understandings of a child who does not comprehend (due to IMMATURE BRAIN DEVELOPMENT) that asking such a question would offend a woman about her weight or to the moronic adults who don’t have a grain of sense or class about them to cope with a child’s curiosity. If she was overweight and it appeared as if she were pregnant, its only natural that he would want to know or ask. You see, the problem we’re dealing with here is that we’ve got some pretty dull adults and a smart child. Cry me a river about fat bashing. It’s a choice. Deal with the consequences and for the love of God, GROW UP! I would never give this place my business. It’s not about what happens to you in life, it’s about how you deal with it and these “adults” are acting like the children.

  • Jessica Matt Poff

    It is sad that this happened to this little boy, don’t get me wrong. But does this really need to make news. Why is it when things like this happen the news is all up in it trying to contact the business. I mean just let it go and move on. I hate when businesses are rude but we all experience it a lot. That does not mean contact a news agency and report it.

  • mr.Guinn

    i agree there has to be more to it but if not then i say boy cot them and take the owners slash management to court i would i’m a step father of four and i be dang any one treats them such as this but yet i see in whats reported they management beeing just as rude if not ruder hes only a kid kids get courious and ask questions that how they learn their like a sponge and the reaction of the poor judgement and tude the way this was handaled of this matter got blown way out of line for one and two look whos caliing the kettle black just saying.he is just a cuirous growing kid their grown adults whos really in the wrong once agian just saying

  • JT

    While I do think the reaction was a little hyperbolic, it should teach mommy that not everyone thinks everything your spoiled little yuppie-larvae says is “cute;” in fact, most of us find your kids downright annoying.

    • Tabitha

      My 4 year old would find you pretty annoying also. She’s at a age where she is learning & there isn’t much of a filter on her mouth right now. It’s a process teaching kids right from wrong; it don’t happen over night. 4 year olds are going to say some crazy things & ask silly (and yes sometimes inappropriate ) questions. It’s just part of life; you did it & I did it.

    • russellmuscle1

      No, most people don’t dislike children. Only childish adults and those who are bitter dislike children. It’s kind of messed up. Seriously, most people are really nice but occasionally I will have some freak give me and my sweet little girl mean looks just for existing. It definitely tells you a lot about a person. …to stay away cause they aren’t right. Something is wrong with you, dont put your hang ups off on an innocent little child.

  • a man

    JT, You obviously don’t have children. at 4 kids say what pops in their head. they mean no harm in it and know no better. this is how they learn. and in no way can a parent filter everything a child that age says because they talk non stop. people need to get a grip. the parent did apologize and im sure it embarrassed her to have her youth ask that. people just look for reasons to start something these days but when word gets around how this owner is banning children im sure it wont be good for business so he will get his.

    • Maria

      Thank you. Maybe JT was the one who grew up “spoiled little yuppie-larvae “. The child is 4. GET OVER IT.

  • Ashton

    This is what happens because of poor parenting at home. Learn to discipline your kids so they can act properly in public. Nothing wrong with teaching them to address elders as sir or ma’am.

  • lheydon

    I think it would be awesome if the woman later discovered that she was in fact pregnant – it would add a whole new ‘Sixth Sense’ element to the story! :-)

  • Karen

    I was once at a friend’s house and her six year old asked if I had a baby in my tummy. The friend was quick to assure me that because she herself was pregnant he was asking EVERYONE that question. I see no reason to ban a child from a shop over something like that.

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