Matchmaker Sheryl Spangler says when dating online you should never take anything at face value.
“If you’re not working with a professional to help you in some way, you’ve got to be very careful who you’re meeting,” Spangler said
She continued, “Women do read the profiles, so they’re reading, and they’re believing what they’re reading and a lot of it is not real.”
Spangler says people should conduct background searches to make sure the person they are interested in is really who he or she claims to be.
“I’m a big fan of Google. Google the person. There’s no reason for matchmakers to do background searches anymore because everything is on Google. If there has ever been a mugshot, that’s going to come up,” she said.
Spangler says women should also be aware of married men posing as single. Some of the “yellow flags” are when a man is only available to speak at certain times, or he doesn’t want you to call him.
Sometimes people tend to feel more comfortable chatting in cyber-space for a while, but Spangler says take the conversation off the web and on the phone to truly get a person’s vibe.
“Voices are very important. If there’s not a volley conversationally, it may not be a volley when you meet,” she said.
She suggests always meeting in a public place and that women initiate contact with the men they are interested in.
“So if you do get online, do your own searching, don’t wait for someone to write you. You know what you’re looking for. You need to write the people you’re looking for,” she said.