Ex-student calls teacher over alleged sex abuse, posts talk on YouTube

Ex-student calls teacher over alleged sex abuse, posts talk on YouTube

Ex-student calls teacher over alleged sex abuse, posts talk on YouTube

Jamie said she didn’t want a physical relationship — but that the teacher threatened her multiple times.

“She said that she would kill herself if I ever left. And I believed that,” Jamie said.

Now, more than a decade after middle school, Jamie said she feels greater control in her life.

“In the beginning, I thought there was nothing that I could do. But after the outcome, obviously, there is something I can do.”

A woman who says a female teacher from middle school sexually abused her for years decided to confront the teacher — and post video of the exchange on YouTube.

Within hours, the educator resigned from her job at another school in California. Police launched an investigation. And the former student, who once felt powerless, now says she feels vindicated knowing the ex-teacher is no longer working with children.

The video

The former student, who calls herself “Jamie,” said the abuse started when she was 12 years old.

“I am 28 years old and have been waiting years to get up enough courage to report a teacher for sexually abusing me for years,” Jamie’s caption on her YouTube video states.

“When I finally got up enough courage to report her, I found out that the statute of limitations was up and she will never have to pay for the things that she did to me.”

So she decided to expose the teacher on the Internet.

“I decided I’m going to call her to get some answers from her,” Jamie said to a camera in her home.

After the woman identified as the teacher picked up the phone, Jamie asked, “So what happens when a student comes in and says that they’re having (a) sexual relationship with a teacher?”

“I would involve law enforcement,” the woman said.

“So how is that any different from what you did” years ago, Jamie said.

“It’s not,” the woman replied.

“Do you realize that you brainwashed me, and you manipulated me, and that what you did was wrong?” Jamie asked.

“Yes. And I regret it,” the woman responded.

“You should be so ashamed and so disgusted with yourself,” Jamie said, raising her voice.

“I am. I am,” the woman said.

Shortly after Jamie posted the video on YouTube, she sent the link to her former teacher. The educator resigned within hours, said Jamie’s attorney, David Ring.

The teacher has not responded to CNN’s phone and e-mail requests for comment.

Police have launched an investigation into the case, but the statute of limitations may be an issue, Riverside police Lt. Guy Toussaint said. It all depends on what the investigation reveals and what crimes may have occurred.

The Alhambra Unified School District, where Jamie said the teacher most recently worked, has not responded to CNN’s request for comment. But according to CNN affiliate KABC, the school district said it contacted Alhambra police immediately after discovering the YouTube link.

The Alhambra Police Department said it notified Riverside police because the reported abuse allegedly took place in Riverside.

“At this time in the investigation, there have been no identified crimes involving the suspect that have occurred in Alhambra,” APD said in a statement.

Why now?

Now that she’s a mother, Jamie said she wanted to make sure the teacher couldn’t work with children again.

“The reason why I wanted to do this was to expose her for what she really was and to protect other kids, because she shouldn’t be around anyone’s kids,” Jamie told reporters Monday. “It took a lot for me to come forward, but I kept thinking about my own kids, and how I wouldn’t want anything to happen to them.”

Jamie said the abuse took place ‘off and on” between the ages of 12 and 18. She said she didn’t come forward as a teenager because the teacher had brainwashed her.

“She told me that my family didn’t love me. She told me that nobody cared about me and that she was the only one that loved me and the only one that was there for me,” Jamie said. “She made me believe that she was my only friend, and that I could trust her.”

Jamie said she didn’t want a physical relationship — but that the teacher threatened her multiple times.

“She said that she would kill herself if I ever left. And I believed that,” Jamie said.

Now, more than a decade after middle school, Jamie said she feels greater control in her life.

“In the beginning, I thought there was nothing that I could do. But after the outcome, obviously, there is something I can do.”

39 comments

  • Tim

    16 years later….come on now, you have been an adult for long enough. Why in the world would you wait this long to take this scum off her pedestal and dealing with children? You should have done this years ago and probably could have prevented alot more abuse she has given to other innocent children.

    • stinger90

      Tim,

      Yes, it should’ve been reported years ago. But you don’t know what a person goes through until you walk in their shoe’s.

      • Tim

        I understand and agree with you that i have no idea until I walk that line, but why wait….just prolonged other innocent kids lives and she has been an adult for quite awhile and even has had her own child. Way to long to report this and I am glad she did, but not glad she waited so long to now be out of statue and this just made the teacher resign and not be charged with crimes.

      • Tami Bailey Helmstetler

        Unless you have EVER been abused, you can’t possibly understand what this young woman is and has been going through. Now that she has children, she is looking to protect her children, and I am sure she wasn’t really thinking clearly about all of the other children that may have been abused…….until now…….
        I hope this woman is at least removed from the school system and never allowed to work with children again. There should be NO statute of limitations on child abuse of any kind!

    • Joyce Richey

      Unless you have been sexually abused, you do not understand how it effects you. I was, at a very young age, but only until I reached my late twenties, did it come back with a vengeance and give me the strength to report it. When you are young, you feel shame, nasy and unworthy. Fear no one will believe you and is a lot of cases, no one does. That was my problem. No one believed me and it hurt as much as the abuse. My father lived a long, happy life, while I lived a sad, empty and wasteful, drug abuse life. Even today, I am lonely and can not relate well to anyone. If you haven’t been through it, you have no clue.

    • crystal

      from first hand experience its a fear thing it took me forever to admit to someone what was done to me we have a fear in the back of our heads so it makes perfect sinse why she waited so long

    • Bebe

      If you’ve never been through something like that at that young of an age then you can’t even began to ask a question like that! Same thing happened to me at 13 with a dj at a skating rink and I felt the same way. I wouldn’t have told anyone either if my sister hadn’t told my dad. I wouldn’t take it back though because I have a beautiful daughter out of it. Something so bad brought something so good in my life. I hope she can somehow move on with her life now.

    • Car

      I am 35 .. Was abused by a family member as a little girl sexually .. Just told my mom and dad two months ago.. Started crazy shit in my family.. Couldn’t have dealt with the s use and fallout at that age… Took me a long time to realize it made me crazy

    • Lee

      You obviously have NO idea what it’s like, or the mental/emotional hold and damage that an authority figure can have over a child that can affect a person years into adulthood. So please, don’t speak/judge harshly to this person. Thank God you had the blessed life you had.

  • nikki

    I think that you did the right thing, but why in the world would you wait so long? It makes me question how truthful you are being? You have been an adult for 10 years…there are so many other childrens lives in danger and that was ok? I totally understand the hardship that you feel, but I also think that somethings are sounding kinda fishy…

    • Joyce Richey

      Like I commented above, it takes a long time to realize the damage abuse causes you. Why you do what you do, why you feel so different. Most abuse victims wait a long time, years in fact before they can come to terms and realize it was not there fault. Do not blame her,. blame the abuser.

    • Joyce Richey

      I was abused when I was five and six years old, by my father…it took me until I was almost thirty to confront him and try to get help…it didn’t work and i ended up a drug addict for years….of course now I am old, but still lonely and unable to have any kind of relationship with people…it is life altering, and there are so many abuse fictims, we are letting these abusers get away with it for too long. It is also true. that many many boys who are abused, become abusers also…so it is never ending.

  • C

    Last I checked it was illegal to record a phone conversation without the other persons consent…unless that person called you.

      • no name

        it is illegal to record a phone call in states are are 2 party consent states which means you have to notify the other person that you are recording and some states only you have to know you are recording and is only legal if you are part of the conversation so you have to abide by the laws of the state that the person you are recording is in. I know this as I have done my research.

        I never view comments once left and don’t receive emails

  • j

    Amazing that people have the nerve to blame this victim. You people maje me sick. If it was something she felt capable of doing earlier she would have. As she stated, she lacked the courage and was made to feel the abuser was her only friend and the only person that cared for her. The abuser “groomed” and manipulated her as a child. When you are taught something a certain way as a kid that mentality sticks with you into adulthood. She was preyed on at age 12 for God’s sake.The people doubting her story….Yeah, that I am sure was always a fear she probably had. There’s always some dbag that tries to invalidate the victim.Its like being victimized again. Nice.

  • A

    You can not comment unless you have had this experience. I say God bless this woman for fusing the strength to come forward and face her demons!
    As far as the recording, it depends on the state however In the majority of states all recordings are admissible as long as at least one party in the conversation knows they are being recorded.

  • samiam

    You go Jamie, that took allot to do what you did. You stand now to be able to start working yourself back to some peace in your life. Statues of limitations or not she should be tagged forever a child molester everywhere she goes.

  • Jane

    She waited 10+ years to finally say something SO WHAT! At least she finally stood up. Imagine the amount of people that go through life and say nothing at all? I commend her bravery. We don’t know what she has been through, so we cannot speak on it. We DO know that this teach admitted she did something wrong & has now stepped down from her role with children. You all need to WAKE UP and look at the bigger picture instead of condeming her.

  • stand up and take responsibility

    I had a neighborhood man molest and harass me from the age of 12 to 17, I avoided him at every turn..he only had the opportunity to grab me on one occasion… but his verbal threats and trash talking, chasing me in the dark continued for years… at 18 i got married and moved away from that area,but when i went to my parents house, every time i passed his house i was overwhelmed with anxiety. When i was 20 i heard through the grapevine that he had remarried and his wife had a teenage daughter that lived under the same roof. I felt i was my responsibility to inform the girl to be aware she was living with a perverted old man, unfortunately it had already began for her. I told her to tell her mom and if she didn’t believe her to have her mother call me and i would verify everything that happened to me…. to make a long story short, one night she told him that she was going to the cops and all hell broke lose needless to say she snuck out of the window, ran and called the police and when the police came to investigate the accusations he took a gun and shot himself in the head…no one wanted to believe me, he was a good man according to EVERYONE, JUSTICE WAS SERVED BY THE HANDS OF THE ONE WHO STOLE MY SECURITY…. its a life long struggle,and it caused me to NEVER trust anyone…..THERE SHOULD NEVER BE A STATUE OF LIMITATIONS on something that affects you till the day you die…..LAWS NEED TO CHANGE….

  • Ben

    I agree with everyone that she should have reported it earlier. But playing the devils advocate here It probably took her this long to get over the trauma of the whole thing. Each person goes through the same situations differently. It depends on how we handle the situation that will determine the outcome. It is hard to try and prove to the world that you can do things when you have problems proving it to yourself.

  • Transcender

    Yea!!!!!!!!!!!! Hooray for “Jamie”!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It takes years and years for a victim to find their voice – after being threatened with a form of violence (The abuser will threaten suicide, threaten a beloved pet, or threaten a beloved family member). In my state, the Statute of Limitations does not exist (like Murder) for victims 12 years of age and younger. But I believe that should be expanded to the age of 18. This also needs to be in EVERY STATE. Sadly, it is not. We need to contact out state senators and representatives to make changes in each of our respective states, and make the change happen!!!

  • Sherri

    I’m glad that she finally got up the courage to confront this administrator. Hate it took her so long that the statue of limitations has run out. I hope that she gets the help she needs to heal.

  • Crystal

    Jamie, I am so proud of you for finally getting the courage to stand up to this. I can relate to you on how you have felt for years. My abuse started when I was 8, I told my parents,Then the worst thing happened, my dad started abusing me. I thought what the heck where is the help I needed. Not with my parents. It took me until I was in my 40’s to finally say something about it. There is so much fear and shame that it overtakes you and you think the best thing to do is keep quiet. I pray that now you have let this out, your healing can start. It is a hard journey during the process but you hold your head high, You believe in yourself that you are going to get through this with the help of God. You are not at fault. IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT! You remember that, You found the courage to let it out, now find the courage and strength for the healing. I will be praying for you. You hang in there!!!.

  • Steven

    July 24, 2006
    Under a recent California Supreme Court ruling, those who record conversations with California residents without their knowledge will be subject to civil liability. If a business makes a routine practice of recording its calls with California customers without notice, it may be an easy target for a class action lawsuit. Fortunately, there is an easy solution to this problem: make it standard operating procedure to notify all callers whenever you intend to make a recording.
    Section 637.2 of the California Penal Code Section 637.2 creates a private right of action for violations of Section 632, and provides for damages in the amount of the greater of $5,000 or three times the amount of actual damages, if any, sustained by the plaintiff. Note, however, that it is not a necessary prerequisite to an action under Section 637.2 that the plaintiff has suffered, or be threatened with, actual damages. As a result, the court held that in a class action filed under Section 637.2, both the named plaintiffs and members of the proposed class allegedly are direct victims of the unlawful conduct, and not simply unharmed person suing on behalf of the general public.

  • Steven

    I am proud of Jamie for standing and speaking up. I know it takes awhile some never get the courage. The sad thing is this. The screwed up laws in this country protect the crook not the victim. Based on the above info that I posted, In CA, the teacher can now turn around and sue Jamie for defamation of character and recording without knowlege. The teacher can claim that because of the video she felt she had no other choice but to resign. And CA law says she can sue for 3 x the amount lost. Figure out her salary, possibly till retirement and triple it. That shows you how screwed up our countries laws are. This teacher should be jailed, and abused everyday of her life by Big Betty in the womens unit. My heart goes out to Jamie.

    • Transcender

      Yes, there are many states whose laws say that only one party needs to know the call/conversation is being recorded. Kentucky has that ‘only one party’ law, also. That is another law that needs to be in all states.

  • Gina T Causey

    I am glad this young lady is speaking out. I pray she doesn’t let what happened define her as a person. I pray she has received help thru counseling. The best revenge would be to speak out about the abuse and use her emotions in a positive way. Learn to be a survivor and not just a victim. God Bless.

  • dg (@dynamicabs)

    i’ve met dozens of girls who have stories of being molested and abused by friends and family who never reported to authorities. this story is only extreme because it was a teacher.

  • Mia

    People look at the big picture, a molester is out of the reach of school children. I am 45 and I still have issues because of abuse that happened when I was 12. I have trouble making love to my husband because of the abuse. When you’re that age, you believe everything they tell you. I was told that my family would be killed and I believed it. It took me to age 23 to come forth. I have problems with being touched. I’m better then I was thanks to a loving husband and prayer, but it’s on going. I’m glad she came forth.

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