Parenting isn’t easy — especially considering that you have to know how to deal with the different stages of every age.
On Tuesday morning during the FOX8 9:00 Morning News, Deborah Tillman, also known as “America’s Supernanny,” will share her tips, tools and techniques.
Below are some of her suggestions:
COMMITMENT CONTRACT–Contracts are used in order to obtain complete cooperation from the parents. By having the parents think about and write down what is expected of them, they become responsible and accountable to carrying out the commitment. The contract also helps parent’s realize that they must lead by Example as well as Model the behavior they would like for their children to have.
HOUSE RULES–It is important to establish a simple list of house rules that your children will expect and understand. They should be written in a positive way (avoiding the word NO and DON’T), placed at the child’s level and have visual cues so that younger children can recognize them too.
CALM DOWN CORNER–This is my fundamental discipline technique that works for children between 2 and 8yrs. It’s a way to train and teach your child that there are consequences when a house rule is broken. It also teaches them at an early age that they must learn how to “control” their own behavior which is a life lesson for the future.
CARRY THE BURDEN–Is my trusted technique that physically demonstrates the power of what a weight or burden “feels” like. It helps the parent to realize how the enormous amount of responsibility placed on a child can virtually destroy him or her and teaches the parent to lift the load by carrying it themselves since they created it.
HOW AM I FEELING?–Provides the child with the opportunity to put pen to paper what they are feeling in an open and honest manner without judgment or criticism. When children are allowed to express themselves openly, the lines of communication are broadened and children begin to trust, safe and protected.
FAMILY CIRCLE–The family circle technique is used to improve overall communication and create a positive spirit in the household. Each family member must point out the positive gifts, talents and abilities of others in the family thereby helping them to realize that everyone is valuable and plays a major role within the family.
SIMPLE SEPARATION–Is used to lessen the explosive behavior that separation anxiety may cause. It is a quick simple way to get the parents out the house as quickly as possible with little to no fuss.
POSITIVE POSTS–I believe in speaking life in to our children. Leaving posts in their room with hand written notes on them is a wonderful way to let your child know how amazing they are.
DADDY DAUGHTER TIME–To all the dads out there, take note! Spending quality time with your daughter is so important. You are the role model for your children and will set the standard for every man that will later come into their lives. It’s nothing like knowing you are “Daddy’s little girl”.
CLINGY BABY–It is crucial for your baby’s development that you do not give in to their demands to constantly be picked up. Once their basic needs are met, tell them they are OK and continue what you are doing. By not picking them up.
PARENT RULES–It’s not just children that need rules, often it’s the parents too! By agreeing on Parent Rules everyone becomes responsible and accountable and it is a constant reminder of what you aspire to be as a parent.
SENSITIVITY TRAINING–Two-way communication technique is designed to help facilitate a dialogue in an open and honest way without fear of ridicule and judgment.
REFLECTION BOOK–Is used for children ages 8 and up to self evaluate their behavior by writing down what they did that day that they liked and what they did that day that they would like to do better with.
LOVE POSTS–Another way to Speak Life into your Child
BUSY BINS (playroom clean up)–This is a simple Involvement technique to get the kids involved in cleaning up. The more children are involved, the more they begin to take ownership of what they are doing and value the outcome as a sense of accomplishment.
VISUAL AIDS–Children with Down syndrome are strong visual learners. This means that they understand what they SEE better than what they hear. Visual aids/supports are used to assist a child in processing language, organizing their thinking and remembering information through pictures, objects, gestures and written language.
STOP! ASK FIRST–An effective visual support used to help children remember a routine such as to STOP and ASK FIRST BEFORE attempting to go outside by themselves. It is a great way to aid expressive communication because the child is then able to use the picture and words to tell you what he/she wants.
DAILY SCHEDULE–A visual daily schedule makes a huge difference in the quality of a child’s daily routine. It provides a guide, in picture form of what is expected to happen for the day. That way, children are less likely to become anxious about the unknown and can regulate themselves better with a feeling of control and consistency.
3B’S–My tried and tested bedtime technique of Bath, Brush, Book and Sweet Dreams gives a child structure at bedtime. For added incentive you can incorporate a reward system to encourage you child to stay in their bed.
OUT OF BOUNDS–A proven technique that creates a boundary for children so that they are visually aware of where they are allowed to go and where they are not allowed to go.
LISTENING BELL–A great technique that uses a bell instead of a parent’s voice as a stimulus which acquires the capacity to evoke a response. The Listening Bell is used to get children to hear, stop and return to the bell. It is consistent in sound and is extremely effective in public places where noise and over stimulation are issues of concern.
STRANGER DANGER–A technique used for children whom are having trouble recognizing the dangers and consequences of running off without parental supervision. They are taught to say, “HELP STRANGER” when approached by someone they do not know
BUDDY UP–A known technique used to pair children up with each other by emotional maturity levels so that they become responsible for and accountable to each other. It gives them a sense of limited control and responsibility.
BUDDY UP BELTS–The buddy belts are used as an effective way to take something the children value as a means to help get a desired result.
IN THE LOOP–This technique gives parents who are not on the same page or who have schedules that conflict with their ability to communicate effectively the opportunity to track their day. It also encourages the parent’s to make the good decision to sit and discuss what was written in the “in the loop” notebook each day.
CONNECT THE DOTS–A tool I use to get parents from one point to another in terms of their parenting skills.
VISION BOARD–define the vision and tell why you wanted them to have a vision board
BROTHER’S KEEPER–provides a sense of responsibility and independence. Helps child gain self confidence and esteem because someone is looking up to them that they must now be accountable to.
RESTAURANT TECHNIQUES–Children act out when they are bored and idle. Restaurants are fun but can be over stimulating with so many people present. Therefore, always be proactive as a parent and take the following steps:
1. Plan in advance by telling the children where you are going
2. Let the children know what will be expected of them (Rules)
3. Give the consequence in advance if the rules are not followed
4. Have an activities bag on hand for the children under 5